Dear Abby: My husband's six-pack-a-day beer habit adds to our expenses—and his gut

Exactly...

 

Divorce is one thing that no matter how expensive it gets, it's worth it.

It can do the same as retirement, though, and become a reason to celebrate/overindulge,

 

When I said choose wisely I meant your partner in general lol. I could’ve been more specific but I do understand what you mean.

 

So many aspects that could be addressed… If you have the budget for it, fine. If it’s not impacting your health, fine (I have a whole “beer math” spiel out there…). If it’s not impacting your relationships, fine. I think it’s all about context. Instead of contacting Dear Abbey, has the wife talked to her husband about what she wants him to instead of what she doesn’t want him to do? It can be difficult for some folks to frame requests / concerns that way. One stands a better chance of “successful” behavior change when someone can “do” something instead of “not do” something, IMO.

I mean, I just dropped $150 on 9 beers today. If I don’t have the budget, I don’t spend it. If she wants me to buy something else, she’ll need to tell me what it is. If I’m getting too fat for my wife’s preference, then she can do something with me to burn calories…

 

This makes me think there's hope for humanity yet!

 

A husband and wife are shopping in their local grocery store.

The husband picks up a case of Budweiser and puts it in the cart.

"What do you think you're doing?" asks the wife.

"They're on sale, only $10 for 24 cans" he replies.

"Put them back, we can't afford them", demands the wife.

They carry on with their shopping. A few aisles farther on, the woman picks up a $20 jar of face cream and puts it in the basket.

"What do you think you're doing?" asks the husband.

"It's my face cream. It makes me look beautiful," replies the wife.

Her husband retorts, "So does 24 cans of Budweiser and it's half the price."

Cheers!

 

Fucking optimists are everywhere these days.........

 

Redfin sent me a few bellingham listings that were at 500k and intact. Things are looking up!

 

Expansive yeast....what??

 

A couple places in my neighborhood (the WoodHood) went up recently, and both were gone in less than 5 days. No idea about the prices, but it's an area with big lots, and desirable.

 

If the yeast don't expand, neither beer nor bread happens......

 

Could not stop laughing. so funny

 

If such a thing were possible to do most divorce lawyers would be practicing a different specialty.

 

So. The actual Dear Abby and the actual Ann Landers were, for real, sisters. As far as "advice columnists" go, I find Dan Savage ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Savage ) to be the most realistic and honest. And, he owns Ann Landers desk and typewriter (kids, ask your grandparents). Having read him for years, he always found the sisters very similar, yet found a strain of humanity in Ann that he hasn't seemed to find in Abigail.

 

As an older dude. I think he has a probably bored with retirement. I know from well worn experience that if I find myself trapped at home with nothing to do, I tend to teach for a beer and one is never enough
So I will never retire.

 

Teaching them how to " get in mAh belly"..fat bastard that I

 

I AM

 

Less money for beer

 

Man's gotta have a hobby...

 

What...whaaaaaat? "Nothing to do"? I can't even imagine what that would be like. I still work part time, I volunteer at three completely different and unrelated organizations (a state park, an air museum, and a food bank farm) every week and I have a house to maintain, a wife and dog to entertain, a few on-line learning webinars in the que, a garden full of veggies that I battle the wild critters for, and a garage full of wood working tools. I still find time to drink, but I can't ever remember having nothing to do. @Equality72521 said it best "A man's gotta have a hobby..."
My motto: Make a difference: Volunteer

 

Good read. It sounds like the husband has a dependency problem, especially with consuming that much per day. His wife is the one that will have to take care of him when he can no longer take care of himself. Good reminder that we should keep booze in it's proper place.

 

i see what you did there

 

Which one?

 

I tell you what. If I drank a 6 pack a day, I'd be a lot happier (and less thirsty!). Mental health comes into play here!

 

Planes of Fame at Chino. B17 restoration

 

The best one! The National Museum of the U. S. Air Force at Wright-Patterson AFB outside of Dayton, OH. From baloons and glders to the B-1 and the SR-71 Blackbird. Absolutely stunning, a must visit!

 

I've been there. I've not been to Planes of Fame. If you're ever in the Finger Lakes region of New York, the Glenn Curtiss museum in Hammondsport is a worthy stop.

Also, if you're visiting the PDX area for beer, stop by and have a look at the Spruce Goose: https://www.evergreenmuseum.org/

 

I am 70 and over the past two years cultivated a love for Belgian ales, usually 7% or higher. Recently I've been re-thinking this love and decided to take days off from any alcohol to see what happens. Big things. I sleep better, wake up better, and lost 8# in just over a month.

The homebrewing gear just sits, waiting for me to decide whether to sell it or restart making lower gravity brews to put on tap.

I feel better and don't have the urge, in fact have a repulsion, to drink, at least at the moment. My brain works better for solving math and other puzzles as needed for memory retention and hoping to stave off dementia.

Drinking a 6-pack a day is a sure recipe for an early grave and probable family breakup. Yes, get a hobby. I've gone full bore into coffee roasting, and computer apps to graph and monitor the roasts.

Good luck to the OP's spouse and the person in question.

 

Drinking a 6r a day and not showing signs of intoxication doesn't mean your a full blown alcoholic. It most likely means your beers are weak af. If you can go a day or 2 without beer and not shit on yourself or feel like you've been in a car accident then it's safe to say you just like drinking beer. She just needs to communicate with her husband herself as a partner not someone opposing him if it's really bothering her. My 2 cents

 

Been there, but personally I prefer aircraft that actually fly.....regularly. PoF vs. the National Museum at Wright Patt is like comparing a zoo to a taxidermist shop. Looking at a static F4U Corsair is nothing at all like watching one fire up that big R2800 radial and taxi out.

Vought F4U Corsair engine start up. Planes of Fame , Chino California. - Bing video

 

On another note this guy might just need to incorporate some ganja into his beer routine. I say this after I have smoked some and it's certainly has impacted me.

 

I use this rationalization myself. The problem is that the 4 pack cans are likely to be larger in size and higher in abv.

 

I disagree with your first sentence. My wife’s aunts an uncles all held down full time jobs while being “functioning alcoholics”. It didn’t interfere with their work and you’d never know they were hung over. Just because they can “hold their liquor” doesn’t mean that they don’t have a dependency on it.

the real test would be if this guy were to take a month off and see how he does with it.

 

Good thinking. I had difficulties to be without, somehow the booze lurked into my mind and got a place it didn't deserve, no white months, I did better quit and kind of forgetting about alcohol. I'm very grateful for the NA options. Win in that I really can have a beer when feeling for it, without bias.

 

Amen. I love the subtle humor that is a fine smooth current. But sometimes I laugh so hard I cry.

 

Was this written in 1950?

EDIT: It was not. How sad.

 

I only want to know Abby's opinion of parents bringing their kids to breweries.

 

I know one thing, it’s really healthy to go behind your partners back to address your concerns to their physician without he/she knowing that. GREAT advice.

Also, switch to vodka. It’s cheaper and has less calories.