How does your significant other feel about your beer hobby?

Discussion in 'Beer Talk' started by ChristopherShain, Feb 19, 2014.

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  1. itsjreal

    itsjreal Initiate (0) Jul 21, 2013 Vermont

    That could work... but what if your significant other is intelligent?
     
  2. russpowell

    russpowell Poo-Bah (8,282) May 24, 2005 Arkansas
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    Sorry, musn't upset anyone...
     
  3. Highbrow

    Highbrow Devotee (476) Jan 7, 2011 California
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    then we'd assume she already likes beer & supports/shares in your *habit*. :slight_smile:
     
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  4. BubalooBrewMaster

    BubalooBrewMaster Disciple (343) Feb 24, 2013 Nevada
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    Agreed,...hence why I'm on a hiatus from trading or beer shopping...plus my celler has over 60+ beers.
     
  5. Rohkey

    Rohkey Initiate (0) Jan 13, 2013 Michigan

    My gf is the one who got me into craft beer, albeit I took it a step further. Anyways she's fine with it, and supportive as long I slip her a few Founders here and there :stuck_out_tongue:. She understands I need to have hobbies and some personal time to stay sane.

    The girl I dated before her didn't. Would constantly nag me if I drank at home or tried having my own life outside of spending every waking second with her...it was miserable.
     
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  6. deaner269

    deaner269 Initiate (0) Jul 14, 2012 Michigan

    Until I started my "hobby" of craft beer, my wife hated beer. She now drinks it more often than I do. No problems here.
     
  7. yankeefan287

    yankeefan287 Aspirant (235) Feb 23, 2012 Pennsylvania

    My wife loves to drink session beers or anything hoppy, and trying seasonals/new beers. She does not however, want anything to do with purchasing them or knowing how much I spend on them. She will go to craft bars and breweries as long as we can invite some friends/family and make it a social outing (having decent food usually helps as well), not just focusing on the beer/brewery.
     
  8. Beerdudenumberone

    Beerdudenumberone Aspirant (298) Dec 9, 2012 Indiana
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    Well, I was thinking my wife was kind of tired of me buyin and talking about beer all the time until after DLD I was laying in bed complaining that I didn't get any Zombie Dust because they sold out. What does she do? She drives the 4 1/2 round trip when she see's that 3 Floyd's made their 1st Zombie Dust release after DLD while I was at work and suprised me with the two cases when I got home! Think she's a keeper
     
  9. Preluderl

    Preluderl Devotee (461) Sep 27, 2012 Pennsylvania
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    My wife and I are getting ready to move into our first purchased home in a couple of weeks. When we made an agreement on the home, I told her I would do my best to make sure we had as little beer as possible to have to move.

    I currently have the most beer that I've ever had at any given time... Oops.
     
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  10. Boca-X

    Boca-X Defender (699) Jan 21, 2014 Missouri

    I'll let you know when she see's the new credit card statement at the end of this cycle :rolling_eyes:
     
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  11. chiefojibwa

    chiefojibwa Initiate (0) May 19, 2009 Washington

    she's totally cool with it...maybe a little too cool. some work nights when i don't want to drink a beer she pops one open, and i can't resist...
     
  12. Hophead21

    Hophead21 Initiate (0) Sep 19, 2013 Pennsylvania
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    Don't know never asked her.
     
  13. lovethebelgians

    lovethebelgians Initiate (176) Apr 25, 2013 Illinois

    best way to stay off the radar, take care of the finances, and hold the only credit card. . . . boomshakalaka!
     
  14. DrStiffington

    DrStiffington Meyvn (1,083) Oct 27, 2010 New Jersey
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    Honestly guys, unless you are:
    A) an alcoholic or
    B) unable to pay your bills due to beer spending sprees,
    then why should any significant other have anything to say on the subject?

    On a related note, is there such an organization called Ballbusters Anonymous? Just asking.
     
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  15. Briesch

    Briesch Initiate (196) Mar 17, 2014 California
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    My girlfriend doesn't drink alcohol at all. She doesn't understand the appeal of drinking but she definitely loves smelling all my hoppy IPA's.
     
  16. stephens101

    stephens101 Poo-Bah (2,076) May 5, 2006 Oklahoma
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    Likes it to the point it provides her w/ some good Hefeweizens, Browns, and Wits and takes us to different locales in search of goodies, which in turn results in other, non beer-related explorations.
     
  17. upsbeernut

    upsbeernut Disciple (306) Sep 22, 2011 Georgia

    BIG BOOM!
     
  18. BubalooBrewMaster

    BubalooBrewMaster Disciple (343) Feb 24, 2013 Nevada
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    Lol......you better have some tastings before you move.
     
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  19. sjverla

    sjverla Devotee (490) Dec 1, 2008 Massachusetts

    Separate checking accounts/credit cards? Anybody?

    We have a joint checking for normal household expenses (cars, rent, food, etc) and separate for our own shit. She's fully supportive of my homebrewing because she gets beer to drink. She might think I'm an idiot for occasionally dropping $50+ on beer now and then (which compared to some of you is wicked fucking tame), but it comes out of my checking account, so she lets me be an idiot without getting upset about it.
     
  20. Rodosman

    Rodosman Disciple (311) Mar 16, 2014 Pennsylvania
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    Considering that my wife works at a drug and alcohol rehab she is pretty damn cool with it. But this is only because Ive spent years and years traing her so well. Im kidding LOL. I only had to train her for a couple months.

    At the beginning of our relationship she would call me out on my beer drinking, which is 1-2 beers on weekdays and 2-3 weekends. But after being together 8 years, and 2 children later she sees Im responsible and handle business every damn day. So moral of the story is if your a good person to your significant other and handle business like a man, you should be able to gain some trust, respect and flexibility.
     
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  21. Liberatiscioli

    Liberatiscioli Devotee (420) Oct 3, 2013 Pennsylvania
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    I just knocked mine up again so she's mad she can't partake. However I did promise I wouldn't open a few till the little bambino pops out!!
     
  22. Brew_Bro

    Brew_Bro Initiate (0) Mar 4, 2014 Florida

    You must not know women. Any money not spent on them is wasted money.

    That is Women 101
     
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  23. LagerCognoscenti

    LagerCognoscenti Initiate (0) Jun 28, 2013 United Kingdom (England)

    Totally relate to this. I don't buy the number of positive posts on here. You guys are damn lucky! Drinking a few beers and truly enjoying them is an entirely harmless hobby within a relationship. Some guys go out clubbing, take drugs, gamble, cheat etc. My (recently ex) girlfriend was hostile to my beer hobby and told me it was bad for me and for my health. Since we split a few months ago I have drunk slightly more beer than I did when we were together but lost 14lbs through exercise and dieting which I couldn't have done when we were together as I didn't have time due to relationship pressures. If anyone has a real drink problem then that is not good and their partner could be right to try to help them. But I bet there's a few BAs out there (male or female) whose partners use it as a stick to beat them with. It's a hobby like any other... football, running, trainspotting, comic collecting... whatever. Don't let anyone beat you up over it. Obviously there's a limit to how much beer you should drink.... but most alcoholics ain't discussing the subtle citrus undertones or phenolic notes of what they're supping!!!
     
  24. DrStiffington

    DrStiffington Meyvn (1,083) Oct 27, 2010 New Jersey
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    Happily married for 12 years, bro. Just not married to a ball buster. I did my research before I got married. Everyone should do the same.
     
  25. Potatocrawler

    Potatocrawler Initiate (0) Jun 12, 2013 Pennsylvania

    It's taken a few years but my unmarried-committed has gone from loving hear wine coolers and mixed drinks to it becoming a shared passion/hobby. She's not even into IPA's, when her first comment about IPA's after trying one was that they "taste like perfume!!!" but now she loves those citrusy hop bombs. 'Atta girl!
     
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  26. Tsar_Riga

    Tsar_Riga Poo-Bah (1,842) Sep 9, 2013 Indiana

    My wife does not drink beer, and is not too interested in other alcohol. Not opposed, mind, just not interested.

    She is mostly supportive. Sometimes there's concern given the sudden increase in beer budget (I jumped in more majorly last year).

    On the other hand, when she was in NW Indiana last month, she offered to go to 3F and pick up something. And she's square with a vacation in Asheville this year and perhaps Bend next, so yeah, she's mostly cool.
     
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  27. bulletrain76

    bulletrain76 Zealot (579) Nov 6, 2007 California

    Mine now works at the brewery that I work at so I think it's going pretty well.
     
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  28. russpowell

    russpowell Poo-Bah (8,282) May 24, 2005 Arkansas
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    To each their own, been married damn near 30 years. I always shake my head when I hear of people firewalling off their money. I guess if you want to do it for the hobbies I don't see any red flags...
     
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  29. AnchorDrops

    AnchorDrops Aspirant (283) May 11, 2013 Michigan
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    She likes when I buy her Rubaeus, and gets pissed when I drink one. Trades from WI are cool with her as long as they include New Glarus fruit beers.
     
  30. mkez

    mkez Initiate (146) May 2, 2014 Wisconsin
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    My wife likes beer almost as much as I do and we share similar tastes as well. Unfortunately, that means that I'm buying for 2 which can get pricey with some things.
     
  31. VitisVinifera

    VitisVinifera Initiate (94) Feb 25, 2013 California
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    geeze i hate to feed the stereotype......but........what g/f? Girls just don't get it, at least the ones I've come across. You try to explain it and they just think you justify bar and liquor store expenditures. Fortunately I have an equal wine love and that goes over better....with my non-existent g/f.
     
  32. GallowsThief

    GallowsThief Initiate (0) Aug 3, 2010 Florida
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    She has no trouble with it as long as I keep her supplied with KBS...not sure if that is good or bad...every time I manage to get some it disappears.
     
  33. Carb-Overlord

    Carb-Overlord Disciple (373) Apr 25, 2014 Wisconsin
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    Happy Mothers Day to all those craft beer love'n mamma bears, and to all those others who put up with our crap. This year I gave my wife a second fridge! Now the beer will no longer occupy a third of our regular fridge!

    ... ugh... that did not go down how I hoped it would ....
     
  34. ColdOne

    ColdOne Aspirant (225) Jan 19, 2013 New York
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    I don't complain about the outrageous price of the organic veggies she buys and she doesn't give me crap about the insane amount of beer that I bring into the house. Win-win, people. Win-win.
     
  35. crazyfoMostout

    crazyfoMostout Initiate (0) May 16, 2013 Missouri

    Why is it that women who normally dont drink beer love sours? Mine is the same way. But she is very understanding of my hobby/illness. She will try anything I bring home, but for the most part she's meh about it. However, if she's out of her vodka or rum, she'll drink one of mine. Since we both drink daily, even arguably heavily, she really can't say much. We love each other beyond words and that's what matters most to me. We has a two month separation about six mos. ago(because i'm a stubborn jackass) and it tore me up so bad I couldn't even eat let alone drink beer while she was gone. I spend nearly 10 grand moving her half way across the country to bring her back. This alone drastically cut into my beer fund, So I won't be making that mistake again.
     
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  36. SouthAtholSuds

    SouthAtholSuds Initiate (173) Nov 3, 2008 Massachusetts

    It makes me last about 15 minutes longer. So she loves all 17 minutes of it.
     
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  37. Sludgeman

    Sludgeman Poo-Bah (1,801) Aug 17, 2012 District of Columbia
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    As she said just the other day (unprompted), if it (your over the top need for quality beer) makes you happy, I am happy.
     
  38. ironchefkook

    ironchefkook Initiate (0) Nov 5, 2013 California

    I'll worry about that when I find one...:rolling_eyes:
     
  39. 64vdub

    64vdub Aspirant (269) Feb 20, 2014 California
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    My wife goes with it...since she likes to travel, it's been fun combining beer searching with travel. She's taken a liking to Pliny and just questioned my decision to trade my last 6 bottles. Oh dang :slight_smile:
     
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  40. SmashPants

    SmashPants Meyvn (1,132) Jun 24, 2012 Australia

    I used to drink a bit too much, but it was predominantly cheap lagers. Since I have found craft beer and put the same money into fewer, better-quality beers and am a bit more passionate about it, she is quite supportive.
     
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