Not drinking while your wife is pregnant

Why have a kid? Sounds like a drag (for both you and her).

In all honesty, do what you feel is right for the situation. If you always drank with her, drinking alone may be a drag. So a stop may make sense. Likewise, if you did beer centric or even food centric events that involved beer with her constantly, maybe change up the venue. Solo fun is just not the same.

 

I can see doing this, if your wife loves beer as much as you do. If she was giving up something she loved and then saw you enjoying it, it might be stressful.

But if she didn't care about beer, then hell no.

 

I quit for over 2 years while we had our 2nd and 3rd. It was for health reasons, but whatever. Sobriety is a nice break, but you know the drill. Baby comes and you'll have no time for yourself for quite a while, especially with #2. It's a totally different dynamic. As my neighbor once told me about having multiple kids: "One kid is a hobby". Yep...Cake walk compared to >1.

So...my advice is enjoy the next 9 months. You'll have plenty of time for abstinence later. Congrats!!

 

what is a Wife?

 

... Is not an option. Figured this was the second half of the title by OP.

 

Cheers to the new baby!

 

I´m sure she would drink if you were pregnant. haha jk

 

I think she should have one a day, herself. But I could never post that, after about 1992 or so, in the U.S. So what follows is NOT a post from me, I don't actually know how it got here...

See, in this country, alcoholic moms who drank the vodka equivalent of about 15 beers a day created a horrible real thing known as fetal alcohol syndrome, a thing I would never minimize because it is selfish, dangerous, abusive and cruel. Then, once we discovered this very bad thing, we did what we do in America: decided that one drop of alcohol in mom was dangerous to baby, and socially ostracized the very idea.

I was born in 1953. My mom largely lost the taste for alcohol during her pregnancy, according to her, but there were hot, humid days (I was November baby, so she was getting pretty big in July, August, September...) in Paducah, Kentucky (ever spend a summer there?) on which a SINGLE cold Budweiser at about 6 when my dad got home from the Union Carbide plant and popped one for himself, sounded good to her. And she had one.

But to quote Lou Reed, those were different times...

 

I asked if she wanted me to hoping she wouldn't lol. She said it wasn't necessary thank god

 

Ha! I was exactly the opposite. I did abstain during my wife's first pregnancy, but did not with the second.

During #1, she was pregnant with twins and it wasn't easy. #2 was much easier. So maybe I felt like I could take a break with her second pregnancy, relax more, and enjoy more beer.

 

I read where in Germany pregnant women drink dark beer. In the article an American woman said while there she had a dark beer and two German women came up to her on separate occasions and congratulated her on being pregnant (the Germans seem to know what they are doing).
My wife did not touch a drop when pregnant, but I am sure a couple of beers a week would not hurt anything- just me chiming in where it is none of my business. Quick story: the day our first child was born I filled a flask with bourbon and threw it in my backpack I took to the hospital. I never touched it and my wife was in labor for like 24 hours. When we got home my wife saw the flask and said "what were you planning on doing with that" and said I didn't know, I just thought I might need it.
There are men who wear devices to share the experience and pain of being pregnant with their other half. I mean, how far do you want to take this. You can always drink behind her back.

 

Cheers on the news! Nah, I'm in the "no need for that" camp. But would definitely dial it back a little bit and make sure I didn't overindulge, especially if she is DDing for me.

 

I started drinking more when my wife told me she was pregnant - mostly Falstaff and Carling Black Label but also the local beer, 33, since I was in 'Nam and hadn't been home for nearly a year and a half...

 

She's eating for two, you are drinking for two....

 

Nope. If anything else you need to be enjoying yourself more now before the stress and extra work of a new baby comes.

 

If she doesn't care, then I'd say keep it up (in moderation of course. While she has a life form gestating in her body, the least we can do is to help get her a snack, rub their feet, etc). Mine just asked me to not drink during the last month so I could be ready to go at a moments notice (sorry hun, just give me a sec to take a cold shower, drink some coffee and eat this old McChicken to sober up before I drive us to the hospital). Lo and behold her water broke at 11:30 pm on a Friday night, and her twin sister and mother were staying with us. Can you imagine the hurt that would have been put upon me by the three of them if I had been drunk

 

Congrats! My wife and I have two kids and I did not drink during her first pregnancy just to see if I could do it. She likes good beer and coffee and gave up both during the pregnancy. I stopped drinking alcohol but not coffee. I brewed a batch of beer called Newborn Ale to be ready for when baby arrived and it was sooo good when the time came to celebrate the new life! It was a good experience but do it only if you want and not under pressure or that may develop resentment. Second pregnancy I drank when I felt like it and that was ok too.

 

I think it's a lovely gesture. =) Congratulations btw.

 

I know some folks who've been asked to give up the booze while their wife can't drink - although these were men who can't just have one beer and call it a night. I say do whatever you want to do and be responsible (keeping in mind most of us will be driving our wife to the hospital when the time comes). My wife is due July 20th and my keezer is still flowing.

 

I have 4 kids, oldest almost 8. I have drunk the same amount whether my wife was pregnant, we had a newborn, etc etc. My wife would probably make fun of me and say that it's a pretty arbitrary decision to stop consuming alcohol randomly just because she's pregnant, but my wife is a pretty cool shit. And for the record, I've probably changed more diapers and wiped more asses than her, so everything's a balance.