cancelling trade while box is in transit...

from the last post, it looks pretty clear that the receiver had already decided that friday was make or break, but didn't quite get that across to the sender.

sounds like just miscommunication and unfortunate fedex stuff. i wouldn't be particularly upset on either side really.

 

I think another key here is how the growler was filled. Counter pressure filled then there really shouldnt be an issue with the extra time but if it was a bottom filled screw top then over 5 days is unacceptable IMO, then again anything over 2 days is IMO (again) for screw top which is why I would not think trading that kind of growler cross country is the best of ideas.

Anyway I agree with those above - if he stated he would like to have it in hand by a certain date (and if you agreed) I do not think it was prudent of you to bring it to a place that you know holds packages for days before they are picked up to ship. But if it was miscommunication then its a tough place as the details were lost in the mix.

 

no... he brought it up beforehand, but the OP didn't take it seriously:

there is no reason why you should need to know his personal reasons. He told you what he'd like and you, presumably agreed to it since you went ahead with the trade. Had you not dropped it off at a location where you knew they were likely to not pick it up for a few days, I could see blaming FedEx, but you knew.

I think cancelling the trade is the fairest thing for both parties.

 

yeah, OP made it sound like the receiver was all "no big deal" beforehand in earlier posts.

in fact, the receiver wasn't clear that it was a dealbreaker, but he definitely specified the time (and pretty obviously had friday as the cutoff). unfortunate situation.

just emphasizes that communication is important. OP shouldn't have assumed that friday was no big deal, and the receiver should have made it clearer that it was friday or bust.

("the receiver doesn't need to bend over backwards to make clear that when he says 'friday' he means friday!!"

that's great, but if he had, he'd probably have ended up with that growler he wanted.)

 

Yep, and that's why I have an AVOID section in my BA profile.

 

if someone wanted it by a certain day, then why take the chance?

 

lol... he did the fairest thing possible, it seems... just send it back and take his side back... no harm, really except shipping.

Which you should be getting a good discount on if you've shipped hundreds of packages through the same company in the two months you've been on this site trading.

I think calling him out as an asshole is not making you look any better than he. He gave your stuff back when it was deemed it wouldn't work out.

 

I've known "glitchedmind" for 14 years and he is a 100% honorable, awesome person. Just saying.

Oh - and I'd only ship a growler to the best of the best trading partner. Too many things can go wrong.

 

sorry... complete dick was your put-down of choice.

 

i don't doubt it, but i think he should calm down about this whole thing. there was a miscommunication, and he didn't understand that the guy wasn't interested in trading if the beers got to him after friday (but the guy definitely said, "by friday"). these things happen.

however, with the further development in the thread, while i wouldn't be less likely to trade with anyone involved, if glitchedmind had an "avoid!" list of traders a la mishuggah, i wouldn't take it seriously (barring explanation i guess).

 

don't doubt this at all. but, he asked for opinions, and I think cancelling the trade with both parties only out shipping was the correct call in this case, instead of a box sitting outside someone's house who cannot receive it or whatever the case may be after a designated day. That is my opinion, he asked for it.

I mean, look at it from the other side. Is the other trader supposed to be out his box and the box he is due to receive because the OP didn't take his "I want it by Friday" seriously?

best to cut your losses, chalk it up as a mis-communication, and not ask for opinions if you are already steadfast in yours.

 

Agree but I would have ate the loss myself I guess. ( guy wanting growler Friday )

 

see... why all defensive? don't ask for people's opinions if you don't want to hear them and aren't able to constructively take something away from a different point of view.

If you didn't want opinions, I don't get what this was about. A pity plea?

 

quote="glitchedmind, post: 367212, member: 675738"]decipher vagueness into set in stone timeline.[/quote]

how is "Friday" vague.

I know there are around 52 Fridays in a year, but I'm pretty sure you knew which one he was talking about

like I said, if you didn't want opinions (which may differ from your own on a forum such as this) don't ask...

and if you're going to have forgotten about it in 24 hours, then it really wasn't that big a deal to begin with.