The Locals HINTS AND HAULS THREAD

For you Black Friday shoppers I just heard retail of Rare is gonna be $80-$100. Wholesale cost is $60. Some store owners here are refusing their shipments because of the cost.

 

NYC has a store getting at least 200 bottles and selling them for $65

 

Wow even the Binny's here, except for the big ones in the city, are only getting 2 cases each.

 

This is one reason why I'm skipping Bourbon County all together this year. It would be nice to get some bottles of regular but I have my daughter this year & I have no interest in chasing trucks especially when MI's allotment is so small to begin with

 

It would be an awesome sign to GI if all retailers refused their shipments, but that's not going to be the case. In fact the retailers are idiots because they can pay $60 and sell it for $80-$120 all day every day.

 

Dear Beer Advocates,
This time I am writing to you for some advice. My 9 year old has had a few problems with the class bully. He has been zeroing in on my son lately and the teachers don't seem to be doing anything about it. I told my mild mannered son to punch him right in the nose.
I just got a text from my wife that my son punched him in the nose. He was of course provoked. Now he is in trouble and I am in trouble (with my wife) for telling him to do it.
Here is the question. How do I handle it with my son? Punish or praise?
Also, how do I handle it with my wife? I have a few days away to figure it out.
I always get the best advice here.
Sincerely,
Right in the Nose

 

Give him a high five and congratulate him on sticking up for himself. Turning the other cheek is right sometimes, and smacking back is called for at times, when other options haven't worked.

Ask him how he felt afterwards. I bet he felt good sticking up for himself. Make sure he understands that turning the other cheek often shows more maturity, but continued bullying isn't one of those. Bully's typically only know one thing, and then run with their tail between their legs.

 

I think you did the right thing, you of course need to tell him that violence should not be a first course of action but that this was the best way to deal with the situation. He also needs to be punished which I am sure is happening from the school, because kids also need to see the repercussions for acting out in that manner. I agree you did the right thing though.

 

I've always been a fan of the non violent until forced otherwise. Kids will take whatever you give them, so at some point you do have to stand up for yourself. I'd have told my son the same you did. I'm not sure I'd punish OR praise. It's unfortunate that it had to happen, and yet he did as you instructed and it should help the situation. More of a "that sucks, but you handled it right in this specific situation" response. No clue on the wife...if you figure it out let me know.

 

I agree with both of these things! I'd give him a high five (in private of course...and tell him NOT to tell mom) But it's important to not be victimized. At the same time...that can't always be the response. Only when other attempts to deal with it in other ways were unsuccessful. However, there are always consequences.

 

Does your wife like diamonds or pearls?

 

Praise him for standing up for himself, but stress that violence is a last resort.

Tell your wife that boys will be boys, and ride the wave of fury... It'll die down.

 

Also,...I think a conversation is necessary. Few times in life do you have a great teaching moment like this. Questions like,...how did this make you feel? I'd also let him know that you're in trouble too with you wife...again a consequence you have to man up to. Tell him you will stand by his decision...and take the beating from Mom for him!

As for your wife....you just got to take it. "I'm sorry" works wonders!

 

My wife said he should have punched him twice...but then again, I'm battered.

 

I thought you were gonna tell him to punch his wife in the nose...

 

Good for you. Men of this country are quickly becoming ******* and I for one am happy that your son will not be one of them. Hell, I think he earned his first beer with this one.

Now your wife, that's a different story. I'd go with the "I'm an old school guy and we don't talk about it on Facebook". Grunt. Then buy her something.

 

It was the advice you gave him, so as far as I'm concerned you can hardly punish him for doing what he was told.

With that said, the wife will want there to be something done about it, so what I'd do is sit him down and explain that he has to 'take one for the team' and publicly accept a punishment for his mother to be happy, but it's on you to design the punishment such that nothing will be enforced (eg officially take away dessert, but sneak one up to his room anyway).

I also wouldn't praise too much, because while what he did was the right thing that he had to do, that doesn't make it a good thing to have had to do, and it should be treated as such. It was bad thing that he had no choice but to do. It doesn't need celebration, but does deserve respect, distinguishing between the two is subtle and not easy, but for me that's the right way to handle it.

Most importantly, when you sit him down to have this conversation, make extra sure you have his full attention and that he isn't also playing with an ipad.

 

I actually agree with the folks who said to neither punish nor praise -- you can't punish him for something you told him to do, and you can't really praise him (at least not excessively) without getting in trouble with your wife. I think you do what Kevin (and probably others, I read very quickly) said about having a discussion, with the gist of it being that this usually isn't the way to solve problems but in this case it (hopefully) was.

And I think you explain to your wife why you told him that, and assuming the bullying stops maybe she will see why you told him what you do. I'm looking forward to hearing your updated status in person!

 

2 things. 1) apparently @robgage is a freaking magician as I can find no record of any box anywhere in any shipping system. Well played sir. The plows are out and Thursday's path should be clear.

2) Someone in this thread is playing a dangerous game. You know who you are. Vengeance is mine, sayeth the Vert.

 

What.................

Someone sending you a Crowler of BA stout, a key, a pink-tutu and a man-card revocation notice??

Just a wild guess.....

Lurks back out........