What does "close it down" mean to you? @Beerfan225

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  1. pwdbyhops

    pwdbyhops Pundit (793) Apr 1, 2015 Ohio
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    I had a trade set up. I was looking to add other bottles or expand if possible. I know that makes things a little gray. Convo went something like this:

    Aug 6
    Me: "Just an FYI....im going to close this down because I have others pinging me. I'm assuming we are good on this."

    Aug 6
    Him: "yes sir, we're good on this please shut it down!...." (He went on to ask about other stuff I might have)

    Aug 6
    Me: Response to his question

    Aug 13
    Me: "Just want to follow up and see where we stand on this trade"

    Aug 16
    Me: "Following up again."

    And then he left the convo permanently. I cant tell what date that was but it says that he read my last comment on Aug 16.


    Not sure if I should do anything. I used to be of the mindset that if I am not out on any beer, no loss. But I find it a little rude how this individual exited the convo without saying a word for 2 weeks (after he confirmed to "shut it down"). I get that it wasn't a perfect trade close with the desire to expand. So there has to be a little understanding. I am not going to harp about him backing out. However, I noticed in the bad trader threads that sometimes it helps to report someone because they may be acting irresponsibly with others as well. And the biggest issue in those bad trader threads seems to always be communication. People don't want to just face the issue. I know that the rules also changed recently. Does anyone think I should report this?
     
  2. pwdbyhops

    pwdbyhops Pundit (793) Apr 1, 2015 Ohio
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    I thought the other trader's name looked familiar so I just perused the bad trader section quickly and he is there. I am going to alert the mods and let them decide what to do with this.
     
  3. Snowcrash000

    Snowcrash000 Grand High Pooh-Bah (6,041) Oct 4, 2017 Germany
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    Ghosting should be a bannable offense, especially after a trade is agreed upon, but even if it isn't yet. It's just incredibly fucking rude and so pointless as well. I mean, how hard can it be take one minute to send a message along the lines of "Sorry, not interested anymore"?
     
  4. MattOC

    MattOC Pooh-Bah (2,100) Jan 13, 2013 Massachusetts
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    That's a bummer. Sorry to hear that. I'm sure some will say, nothing lost, so get over it, but I disagree. To me, "we're good on this, shut it down," especially coming from him is a verbal agreement to a trade. I think you'd have every right to call them out here. Even more so knowing he's been named in the Bad Trader forum before.

    I had a similar situation happen to me. I reached out to a trader and after a few messages back and forth he writes me - "let's do it then." To me, he verbally agreed and listed what the trade would be. Then his next couple messages were asking about other beers. All of which I informed him were no longer available at a specific brewery and or didn't have on hand.

    Then his last message was backing out of it. I posted one last message about how it all took a strange turn, he read it, then permanently left the conversation. He went on my personal watch out for user/no trade list.

    I think it's fine if you decide not to out him here, but I would definitely put him on a personal no trade list and if you could let me know in conversation who the user is, I would appreciate it. Thanks.
     
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  5. whiskey

    whiskey Maven (1,308) Feb 25, 2012 California
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    It's getting rampant. Especially with other trade forums that allow it to take place without consequences.

    I had a guy that I had something set up with, we planned to meet and he then said that he wasn't going to make it to the brewery. I find out later that he actually did go to the brewery and just didn't want to trade anymore(the beer I was trading him became more available so it wasn't as valuable).
    He just basically said, "Meh, I'm not really into anymore, peace out." after I held on to the beer for 2-3 weeks instead of trading it to someone else. Next day he was making trades again. Just a BS way of doing things. This was not on BA.
     
  6. whiskey

    whiskey Maven (1,308) Feb 25, 2012 California
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    And to anser your question, "Close it down" means, "I definitely want to make this trade."
     
  7. FBarber

    FBarber Grand High Pooh-Bah (7,325) Mar 5, 2016 Illinois
    Mod Team BA4LYFE Society Pooh-Bah Trader

    "Close it down" or "shut it down" don't really make sense to me as an agreement to move forward with a trade. If it were me and someone said that to me, I'd be confused ... unless it was referring to closing down the outstanding trade request thread because a trade was agreed upon. That being said, ghosting on a trade thats been agreed to is a dick move.
     
  8. John_M

    John_M Grand High Pooh-Bah (6,849) Oct 25, 2003 Washington
    Mod Team Society Pooh-Bah Trader

    My take as well, but I'm not sure what to do about it.

    The most recent Bad Trader thread involved a victim who had gone out of his way to obtain some beer as a favor for a member living in another part of the country. After obtaining the beer requested by the member (in order to complete the trade), the BT cut off all communication with the victim. As it turned out, he had engaged in similar behavior with another member on the trading forum. Under those set of circumstances, he was eventually banned, after he was given some time to visit the BT thread and explain his actions (which he never did).

    The current situation seems a bit different to me, as it sounds as if the OP has some alternative options for trading his beer, and it doesn't sound as if he spent money on obtaining his trade goods that he likely wouldn't have spent otherwise. In other words, the injury doesn't seem that severe, and it sounds like it will be fairly easy for him to be "made whole." Those are generally the factors I know I try to take into account when determining whether a Bad Trader thread should be started (as I'm always much more concerned about making sure the victim is taken care of, as opposed to beating up on the perpetrator).

    That's just my two cents, for whatever it's worth. Maybe @dmbforever can weigh in on this topic as well (as he's our resident Bad Trader expert).
     
  9. FBarber

    FBarber Grand High Pooh-Bah (7,325) Mar 5, 2016 Illinois
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    Its tough because an agreed upon trade initially is just agreed on in principle but not actually through the site here. I recently did a trade where we agreed in principal on the trade, at least in what was to be exchanged, but then we both had to go get the beer to be exchanged. Once we had the beer in hand, we opened a trade on here. There is that time period where there may be an agreed upon trade but no open trade here on BA. I'm assuming that is what happened here ...

    So when something like this happens, do you force them to go through with the trade or face a ban? Do you suspend their trading privileges?

    I know that there has been a reticence to involve the mods in trades that are not agreed to with an open trade pending on BA - especially in these cases where the harm to the person isn't as great as someone who sends beer that is stolen. That being said, there does seem to be a rise in people agreeing in principle to trades then ghosting. And I think is should be dealt with to some extent. I was very glad to see the retirement of the account in the most recent bad trader thread where the bad trader had ghosted on some trades. In my personal opinion, the beer trading community here has no need for people who aren't good for their word.
     
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  10. John_M

    John_M Grand High Pooh-Bah (6,849) Oct 25, 2003 Washington
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    I agree, and it makes me unhappy that this has become such a widespread problem. As I mentioned in the prior BT thread, there seems to be a perception that the victim really hasn't been hurt by the actions of the BT, as the "victim" isn't actually out anything (in other words, he can just go ahead and drink the beer he bought himself). The fact the victim may have gone to considerable time, effort and expense to obtain the beer in question, and may have spent a fair amount of money on beer he otherwise would never have spent to obtain that beer, doesn't seem to register for a lot of people.

    My impression is that for a lot members in the trading the community, they see this almost as a "victimless crime." Short of making it a ban-able offense whenever someone reneges on a trade agreement (and I'm not sure the bros or the community want to go there), I'm not sure what can be done to stop this sort of behavior.
     
  11. whiskey

    whiskey Maven (1,308) Feb 25, 2012 California
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    It's more common in FB trade groups. Someone will put up an offer and you'll see "Close it down", which means don't accept any more offers, I got you.

    Also, here on BA, if I agree to a trade and send a trade request I'll send a message stating I sent the request. My experience has been that if the other guy reads that message and accepts the trade immediately, it will go smoothly, if he reads it and hasn't accepted it hours later, run. It literally takes 5 seconds to accept that trade after reading a message. If he doesn't accept within a few hours, I pull the request and move on.
     
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  12. pwdbyhops

    pwdbyhops Pundit (793) Apr 1, 2015 Ohio
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    PM sent
     
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  13. FBarber

    FBarber Grand High Pooh-Bah (7,325) Mar 5, 2016 Illinois
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    I dont do much beer trading and its exclusively done through BA, so that explains why I had never heard it. Thanks for helping me out.
    I always send a message with the trade request as well. haven't had any issues with my trades so far (knocks on wood).
     
  14. colby600

    colby600 Pooh-Bah (1,919) Mar 24, 2015 Connecticut
    Pooh-Bah Trader

    This is why I have 44 individuals on my ignore list. Ghosting or acting like a dick once is enough for me. @pwdbyhops send me the user name for my 45th entry.
     
  15. pwdbyhops

    pwdbyhops Pundit (793) Apr 1, 2015 Ohio
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    PM sent
     
  16. whiskey

    whiskey Maven (1,308) Feb 25, 2012 California
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    I'll take a PM too.
     
  17. John_M

    John_M Grand High Pooh-Bah (6,849) Oct 25, 2003 Washington
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    Soooo... it appears the perpetrator is a repeat offender. So much for learning from past mistakes.
     
  18. FBarber

    FBarber Grand High Pooh-Bah (7,325) Mar 5, 2016 Illinois
    Mod Team BA4LYFE Society Pooh-Bah Trader

    So maybe a warning for first time offenders and for repeat offenders like this dude then you get banned?
     
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  19. Snowcrash000

    Snowcrash000 Grand High Pooh-Bah (6,041) Oct 4, 2017 Germany
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    Could you not issue warnings to such accounts, maybe suspending their Trader status for a certain time, and then banning the account once a certain amount of warnings have been reached?
     
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  20. ktr5010

    ktr5010 Savant (1,028) Dec 12, 2014 Illinois
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    I would be a little confused with that exact wording, however ghosting sucks and they should have followed up. If you were on the path to an agreement backing out shows poor character.
     
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