Backing Out..

It depends on what occurred during negotiations. If the trade forced the other person to go out and buy like $50 worth of beer, then it's pretty shitty. If it's beers the person already had on hand and you haven't had many communications, just let them know you'd like to back out.

Maybe that's too simple?

 

i generally consider a trade locked when addresses are exchanged, and i don't go out and buy beer for that particular trade until that happens. for IP trades it's once a meeting time and place are exchanged, albeit sometimes things just happen and the locale needs to get shifted.

backing out after an exchange of addresses without a really good reason will land you on my no trade list, doubly so if i specially purchase beer for it before you back out. luckily, neither has happened for me yet.

 

Why are you doing it?

If you just changed your mind, tell the OP just that. Abe Lincoln got it right "honest is the best policy".

If you got a better offer, dick move.

No matter what, communicate it timely and be considerate of the OP since they will feel jerked around.

 

^^^this^^^

 

1. Wait until they ship.
2. Send message saying "Shit came up"
3. Wait for them to get upset.
4. Tell them it must be nice to never have bad stuff happen in their lives.
5. Tell them you would have made it right, but they acted like an insensitive ass.

It's a proven formula for success.

 

make a thread on the beer trading general forum and hope they see it and take a hint

 

As for me, I'm alright with a potential trade partner backing out any time up until I've either bought beer especially for the trade or packed up the box. He may decide he's got too much going on or has been spending too much on trading or even that he no longer likes the parameters of this particular trade - that's his prerogative. If they're just honest about it then to me it's no big deal and just part of trading - no hard feelings and good luck.

 

Just don't say something like "Hey man, about that trade we had lined up and exchanged addresses for... Well, I didn't have that bottle in my possession yet, and when I got my box with two of them in it yesterday, one was broke. I am keeping the other for myself, so now I don't have one to trade. Good day." Had this happen to me last month. Ugh.

 

For me, addresses being exchanged and a confirmation message that is agreed to (My X for your Y) is the point of no return.

 

I think if you want the best advice, we need more details. Safe to assume you feel compelled to back out? Why?

 

are you backing out of a trade or stepping out of the conversation/negotiation? As soon as a list of bottles are agreed to and addresses are given, I think you should complete the trade...HOWEVER, I do understand that there can be other factors, which is why more info is needed before I think you can get opinions from the peanut gallery

 

I respectfully disagree...as a member of said peanut gallery I can tell you that we need little to no actual information to present an opinion

 

I was about to respond saying "so we can give a meaningful opinion", but then i realized that is never true either...

 

Backing out after addresses have been exchanged seems to be considered, by the vast majority here, to be a bad thing to do, and I agree.

With that said, it's better to back out after addresses exchanged/bottles agreed upon, etc.... than to not back out if you either know you can't hold up your end of the deal, or you don't know how you're going to obtain the bottles needed to hold up your end of the deal, etc...

If you back out after everything is agreed upon, with a good reason for doing so, it sucks, but it's something that can be understood by the other party if circumstances changed to where you couldn't send what you agreed to send.

I'm sure that person probably won't want to trade with you again in the future, but on the flip side, they also won't be starting a "Bad Trader" thread about how you didn't send what was agreed upon etc. either.

 

You're fine, did nothing wrong IMO, from that account of what happened.

 

So he lied about the price of the beers on his end to try to get you to put more into the trade? Sounds like backing out was the ideal thing to do in that situation.

 

If all of that is accurate, I'd say you're justified in backing out. Hopefully you indicated why to him as I think it's important that someone purposely misrepresenting the cost of their bottles knows when they've been found out.

 

That guys must really be an ass trying to overcharge a hefty amount that "splitting the difference" isn't some negligible amount. What beer (sure I could look up your history) and prices are we talking about?