I know that some are busier than others. And life tends to take over. This is a hobby for some; maybe a way of living for others...haha. But I don't understand traders that completely drop off and don't say even word. Never had this happen before until recently. Case 1: 1st trade completed. Everything went well. We agreed we would do it again. He was putting stuff aside for me....had a whole list of things. I was putting stuff aside for him. And then suddenly, he is gone for a month. He has been seen online (profile) about 3 times this month so its not like he is completely gone. But when he goes online, he never checks the mail. Conversation last read January 21st....haha Don't you just love the stalking features on this forum? Case 2: Had a trade lined up (but did not have one of the bottles in hand yet...coming in a separate trade). Sent a trade request. Because I was waiting for a bottle to come in from another trade, I asked if he was in any rush. He indicated "No rush". Great. Well the other bottle took 2-1/2 weeks to come in to me (the other third party trader kept delaying and delaying). I kept this BA trader apprised of the delay and apologized. Maybe he thought I was pulling his chain. But when it finally arrived and I said I was ready to ship, I haven't heard anything back from him. He has been online (as of an hour ago). Also does not check the mail. I could understand if he was annoyed about the delay, but (1) he said "no rush"; (2) he never expressed any issue with the delay (no response at all for that matter) and (3) if he thought I was pulling his chain, then why would that feeling continue once I was ready to ship. And if he moved on, why not just say that. I was ready to ship at least one of the bottles. He could have just said "can't wait, let's just swap the bottles that we have" I sent a final message to both traders and apologized if I had offended them in any way (and that it was not intended). I also asked them to let me know if there was something in particular that they didn't like. I don't plan to be defensive....just curious if there is some negative perception at the other end. Is it just me, or would a courtesy response be expected? Just seems rude to not even respond. I would rather get a "you're a jerk because...." then no response at all. Oh well...just venting. Notably, I thought I was going to have the same issue with a 3rd trader, but he responded that he has some serious family medical issues and wont be able to trade til April.
I was kinda surprised no one replied to your post, but then I wasn't. The issue with traders just going silent for one reason or another popped up more than a few times in the past and people are probably sick of talking and speculating why anymore. All you can do is to be who you are, courteous and communicative, and hope people do the same with you. Those who don't, it's best just move on and don't look back..."Hey, since I haven't heard from you, I'm going to go ahead and move on with these bottles."
I was very surprised that no one responded to this message. Ironically, one of the traders at issue just responded to me an hour ago. He went on a break. He wasn't accusational, but just said that he didn't feel right about something. My response: "Hey. I appreciate you getting back to me. I understand how you feel (especially about taking a break) but maybe its more appropriate to have the courtesy to say that you want to take the break..." Its not about the substance. Its about the manners.
