Looking for feedback on a recent trade

I find it extremely odd that this person still has the bottle and is willing to trade it to you. They already traded it to you so that would be a major problem for me.

So basically, they want more for that particular bottle then first agreed upon. Not cool. You should be talking with this trader to resolve the situation. Personally I believe the trader should send you the bottle and pay for the shipping on the bottle he sent if he wants it back.

I'm only hearing one side of the story and haven't seen the actual conversation.

 

Huh? So you agreed upon a trade with a certain bottle you were to receive. You shipped their box. The other trader then contacts you and says they don’t have one of the agreed to bottles and offers you a different one that you agree to? Then there is more conversation where the other trader mentions he has the original bottle you agreed to but it’s sitting in the fridge waiting until you trade again? That sounds ridiculous. If true, the other trader is a moron and should now box up the bottle you originally agreed to and send it to you. If required, send back the replacement bottle he sent you and he should pay for return shipping. If it’s not that valuable he should just let you keep it as an extra and good faith. Your story is a bit odd though. If he said he didn’t have the original bottle and asked you if you were ok with a different bottle then why would he ever bring up that the original bottle requested is now in his fridge?

 

Huh a bit confusing, def needs clarification. I got a different take than the two above me.

My take is the trade involved OP to receive bottle A as part of the trade. After OP sent his box, he is contacted by partner to say he doesn't have bottle A, but he agrees to send bottle B instead, which OP agrees to. But instead of sending bottle B, partner sends bottle C, and tells OP he put bottle B in the fridge instead of sending it.

Either way, the main thing I got is for some reason partner decided not to send an agreed upon bottle, perhaps twice in the same trade. How to resolve this over one bottle? I'll leave it to better minds than mine.

 

I agree, this story is a bit confusing.

 

Yeah a bit confusing here... Can you clarify in their original message about the mess up, did they say they didn’t have the agreed upon bottle or he accidentally shipped a different bottle than the one you agreed to by mistake? The first option makes no sense if he said he’ll keep the bottle in the fridge for you, the second while annoying does happen (I’ve actually had this happen on a box I received earlier this year) and it would be up to you if you require addition action to make it right or you’re fine with the incorrect bottle you received. In my case, I believed it was an honest mistake and there wasn’t a big difference in what I actually received so I just called it good.

 

I agree with the confusing part. I’ve read it a few times and can’t tell. If his partner agreed to trade bottle A but then backed down and sent bottle B but kept A in the fridge. Or if he agreed to trade a bottle he thought he could get as bottle A but couldn’t and got bottle B instead and then sent bottle C while holding on to bottle B.

either way when the trade was made bottle A was agreed upon by both parties so bottle A should have been sent. I’m not sure what happened in the PMs but from your post here it sounds like you really didn’t want bottle B, you wanted bottle A and they should have gotten you bottle A to settle the trade.

also if it is the bottle A/B/C story then it’s really messed up given he sent you a 3rd bottle not discussed.

either way if he has the agreed upon bottle in his fridge it’s his duty to send that to you.

not sure if you know the guy personally or have traded with them multiple times in the past and he just assumes you’ll trade again it’s pretty messed up for him to hold onto an agreed upon bottle instead of sending what was expected.

 

This is what it sounds like to me...

• both sides agree on bottle A as part of trade
• OP ships package
• other trader realizes he doesn't have bottle A; offers bottle B instead
• OP says no big deal about not having A, but he would prefer bottle C as a replacement (which he knows, from previous correspondence, that other trader has)
• other trader ships out package w/ bottle B as the replacement (and says he's saving bottle C for next time)

Sounds shitty to me on the part of the other trader. He shouldn't have sent out the package without explicit confirmation that the replacement was acceptable to OP.

@pumpkinsmasher, can you clarify what you actually said in your message when you said it wasn't a big deal? I assume you meant that not having bottle A — and needing to agree on a replacement — wasn't a big deal. Could the other trader have misinterpreted this to mean that sending bottle B as the replacement wasn't a big deal? That's the only situation I can imagine here that would justify the other trader's behavior.

 

For those confused by OP's situation @sjguglielmo spelled it out pretty clearly in his post above.

The way I see it, your trade partner should not have assumed you would be cool with the replacement and should not have shipped until you told him how you would like to proceed.

Seems like the right thing to do is for your trade partner to send the bottle you would have chosen had he not already shipped the bottle he hoped you would be cool with. Also if he would like said bottle back, that expense should fall on him as he was the reason it was sent in the first place.

 

Crystal now. They should have waited to ship until you agreed. Would ask them to ship other bottle and send you a label to return the bottle you didn’t want.

 

Oof, yeah the other trader was in the wrong then. He shipped the box without even hearing your thoughts about the replacement. There are a zillion reasons why you might not have wanted that as a replacement: maybe you've already had it, maybe you're allergic to the adjuncts in it, or maybe you're just not interested. But he didn't even wait to hear about any of this.

I agree with @Lorddevn — you can ask the trader to send bottle C instead and you can send back the unwanted replacement bottle with their label. Or (but this is a little riskier because you have to trust that the other trader will make good on this), you can agree to a future trade that's sorta lopsided in your favor, where you'll get bottle C in exchange for something small/easily accessible from you.

 

My take on this is bottle C has too much trade value to guy who has it and he doesn’t want to give it up. He made a mistake and should go above and beyond to make it up to OP.

 

Agreed. And after re-reading OP's posts I think he is to be commended for being as non-judgemental as he's doing about this sketchy situation.

 

No it should not require a extra trade. It should require the OT sending you the bottle you wanted and you sending back the bottle you didn't want....all in their shipping dime.

The idea that they shipped prior to your agreement reeks of sketchy trade.

If it turns out it was a simple mistake....the OT should have no problem with the swap.