Potential Bad Trader

To me, the answer here is pretty simple. She completed the trade, you got your beer pretty much around the time you should have, so she doesn’t warrant a bad trade thread (or at least not being called out by name in the thread).

However, That does not mean your experience was without concern. And that is why we have the trade feedback system. Good communication is part of a trade, and she did not do well in that department, so leave neutral feedback and note that the trade was fulfilled but that the communication was spotty. Add them to your DNT list if you want, but this transaction is over once you leave feedback.

One last item, not sure she left you feedback yet, but if not and you’re worried about getting retaliatory feedback, remember, if the moderator determines that retaliatory feedback was left, it’s an instant ban.

 

Yea, that would have to be up to the OP. I guess I just don't understand the point of leaving positive feedback and then noting a problem in the feedback. I think a lot of people see 100.0% and don't bother to read each feedback to see if there are any red flags. But like I said, its really whatever the OP or any person in that situation is comfortable with.

 

Glad you got your beer OP and I don’t think you did anything wrong here... the thread is valid IMO especially if she’s not named now that the beer reached your porch anyway.

Couple things:

- Poor communication; if she actually read the message, a quick reply wasn’t too much to ask.

- Neutral or good feedback is only up to you. I’d leave a « good » feedback, but I would be very hesitant to trade again with her because you were pretty much « ghosted on ».

- Unless she’s dealing with something in her life(?) Would be nice you hear from her again so that you guys cheers each others at least? Anyhow it’s very rarely the case that a potential bad trader is having issues and usually is an outright excuse.

Well this is sorted for the better and this post:

Nicely sums it up too. Cheers.

 

This is pretty much word for word what I would have posted (forgot this thread was still open), and I think it's up to the OP to decide what sort of feedback to leave. Personally, I would probably leave good feedback with some additional information about the communication problems.

Having read through a number of these bad trader threads, I can't say the alleged BT's behavior is entirely unusual. People get busy, the trade transaction falls off their radar, and it gets pushed to the back burner. When they get a reminder or an inquiry from their trading partner, often times the reaction is one of embarrassment. The better course of action is to respond to the inquiry, apologize and tell your partner you'll get their box out the door pronto, but I have seen instances where instead the trading partner is too embarrassed to respond, and before anything else happens, they try to quickly make amends and get their box over to FedEx or the post office ASAP. That's a lot of speculation, but it fits the sort of fact pattern I've seen in some previous threads.

Bottom line... the OP got his box and so everyone has fulfilled their obligations (which is always the point of these BT threads). However, this almost certainly is someone I would not trade with again.

 

By the way and even though you got your beers, I’d like to read from @David55555 that he eventually heard back from the trader in question just so we know... so if @dmbforever or @John_M or other more experienced mods are fine with it, we can leave this open for a bit.

 

Of course. I'm curious as well.

Based on the way this has played out, my guess is he won't hear anything more from her, but you never know. Certainly no reason not to keep this open for another week or so to see if the OP ever hears back from her.