Not drinking while your wife is pregnant

I'll be first to say it's a sweet sentiment. For 9 months, she not only can't drink, but can't eat many cheeses, cold cuts, salad bar items, rare meats, sushi, caffeine..... it's a massive drag. Not to mention the activities she shouldn't do (no amusement parks, bouncing movements... basically no fun!) It's symbolically supporting her and acknowledging her daily sacrifices.

I would appreciate the sincerity of that sentiment. (mind you, my husband drank for 2 both times, but that's besides the point....)

 

Pregnant wife right in front of me, and nope not giving up alcohol til august. I have cut back anyways, usually none during the week. It helps me relax, kick back, after fighting a toddler to sleep...

She can't drink beer anyways, but she enjoys wine. She won't be able to have it for awhile after the little one is born either because of feedings.

I know she doesn't expect me to give it up either. After she is born I won't be drinking a lot for awhile anyways, just a fact of life. Gotta get it in for now.

 

Didn't give up coffee or alcohol. She was ok w it. Treated the woman like gold the whole time anyway. Plus she got the large suite because she delivered at the hospital I work at. But she's is great shape and the only time she threw up during her pregnancy, my 11-0 Bulldogs lost to a 5-6 San Jose ST team later that day.

Anyway every now and then I would dip my finger in my latest "wow" beer and she'd try it.

Wife just said "that's when you kicked it up a notch" regarding her pregnancy.

Sorry for the tangent.

 

No, my wife doesn't drink. She's the ultimate DD, even when pregnant.

 

I think it's always a good idea to take a break and try to figure out a few new ways to deal with stress. Its also good to connect and be on the same page with the person you've decided to bring new life to the planet with You get a hell of a lot of kudos from me if you don't drink alongside your wife!

 

As someone who works 55 hours a week and abstains from alcohol on workdays, I can honestly say I have been too selfish to give up beer on the weekends during the two times my wife was pregnant. She never asked me to, and she loves me just as much as before we got married. But do I think it is an honorable and kindred expression of love to abstain for your wife? Absolutely. Everyone's situation is different.

 

I think it is the thought that counts. So I agree with the above poster that it's an honorable and kind commitment you're making, even though you don't have to. Sounds like she knows it too. By you giving up who knows, there may be more enjoyment of beers together later because of that shared sacrifice.

 

I offered for our first kid and wife said don't be silly. She then proceeded to to get jealous everytime I had a beer....
Second kid she said don't be silly, why should I give up something I really enjoy just because she can't drink. Plus as others have said once the baby arrives you won't be getting nearly as many opportunities for a couple beers.
As all married men will tell you and as you know, read between the lines and figure out what's the best course of action. Happy wife, happy life.

 

If you really think you if want to make it gesture of solidarity, more power to you. The 2 times I actually saw this in real life, the wife was just using thisa issue as a loyalty test. Both of those dudes got what they deserved marrying those spouses to start with...Marrige is already a loyalty test IMHO. There are so many things you can from here on out that a postive and real contribution for your wife from here on out, but I digress. Eveyone is different, every realtionship is different, follow your heart. Was never an issue in this house, both our kids are adopted...

 

I buy doubles of the cellerable stuff that I think she would like, and that allows for me to keep poppin' 'em

 

Self induced. I have no sympathy for you.

 

No. This is one of the first things we discussed. No expectation from her to stop drinking. Only thing she asked for and I agreed was to not come home drunk after work near the end when I may be needed to drive to the hospital.

 

I wouldn't do it but at the very least you'll save a shit ton of money.

 

My wife is pregnant with #2 and I'm still drinking. I thought about not drinking as she also loves good beer, but ended up just not slowing down or even trying.

If you can, you're a better man than I am.

 

I think if she is really ok with you drinking and you are still pulling your weight, then by all means have at it because you are not going to have much time to drink when the baby comes. On the flip side, if you told her you would lay off, then it may be better to follow through with it. I know this doesn't help, but I personally am going to continue to drink while your wife is pregnant.

 

Also, I try not to drink in front if her too often as she gets a big boner for the beer and I feel bad.

 

Congrats on the baby on the way! Only you know what's appropriate in your situation. If you feel like it's right, then it is. Plus whenyou get back to drinking, you'll be a cheap date. Win win!

 

I didn't with #1, but I did with #2. The missus appreciated the solidarity. Temporary sacrifice for long-term gain (in my case, anyway). Good work, man.