The Locals HINTS AND HAULS THREAD

Not sure if it was intentional, but that was a very useful hint...

 

I've gotta echo this in large part. I was bullied a fair amount as a kid. 1) bullying makes your life worse 2) bullying makes your education experience worse 3) you feel much, much better when you fight back. I remember feeling great when I either got people to stop picking on me or took a punch and kept going towards the guy. Neither situation resulted in further bullying. Is violence the first option? No. But it is an option. Has to be.

As for the school not doing anything, fuck the school. Take it as far up the chain as you need to go. Get a lawyer if needed. Funny things happen when lawyers get involved.

Your wife will get over it, although you may apologize for the foreseeable future. In the scheme of things, the detention/ISS/punishment is irrelevant to any long-term goals/plans for your kid. A pattern of behavior is problematic. An isolated incident likely has little meaning.

 

apparently fedex re-weighed my turkey sixer box... I may have underestimated the weight by almost 9 pounds apparently...

 

Thank God for Locals Turkey Sixer has impacted Mommy's Porch.

#VBS This is fukin good.

 

Turkey sixer is en route to my target. Each bottle is wrapped, but not labeled for a specific day. I was considerate though and diverted back to my youthful days of drinking Bud and wrote on each label "Heavy" or "Light". Figured I'd let you pick your poison each day
Cheers

 

Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

 

I forgot that I read this before leaving for work today. I hate you -_-

 

Ok, kiddies:

I've confirmed 14 Turkey Sixers have arrived, and at least 10 more have reportedly been shipped.

That puts us at over 50%.

Lets get rolling, cuz you've only got a week before we start cracking them open!

 

@valrxman
Hey Steve- I would have texted you my thoughts, but my phone got messed up today, so I'm #phonelessinEastTroy, besides were all friends here.

Honestly, I would have told my son the same thing, if I had one and he was facing the same bullying like yours is at school. For the record, I'm the last guy that promotes any violence and usually shys away from any confrontations. With that said, he's family, and you have to do what any parent would and that is protect them in every way possible. Since you can't physically be there every minute of their lives, certainly there is no harm (IMO) in teaching your son to be a young man and defending his *manhood*. If the school or teachers don't see the wrong with the other kid doing the *bullying*, then sometimes matters need to be taken...right or wrong. As others have said, I for one would not punish the boy, as you are his Dad and he looks up to you. Surely you don't want to send a mixed message by telling him to do something and then punishing him afterwards. This is a perfect opportunity to have the father/son talk and explain the best way you can why the *punch* was warranted in this situation.

And the wifey....you might want to talk to "Dear Abby" and get her opinion on how to handle her

 

#VBS - Thanks to @Mikexw for the beer and @jawas for the glass!

 

I'm in Michigan and my turkey sixer should be in Michigan as well.

 

My box is heading out very soon, waiting for Day #4 beer to arrive, hopefully will be here tomorrow. Will be sure the box arrives before Day #1.

 

SixterCAN dropped off today. I'm an idiot and forgot to put the challenge letter in the box - so instead it's behind the label in the clear label pouch. Hope you can figure it out. If the box isn't at your place in 2 days.... Just wait longer.

 

I was hoping to ship today but I can't find one bottle I was going to put in there.... ugh.

Hoping to find today and if not will use a not as impressive back up bottle but still on your wants list. Will now be shipping thurs am.

My target is not on to me!

 

Steve, we can talk at great length next week on this. We had a huge problem with this when my son was in school. We told him the same thing, with the caveat that he had to take whatever punishment the school gave him. In life, you have to play by the rules and take responsibility (#1 problem in this fucked up world). He did in fact punch a kid in the nose, happened to be the biggest bully in the school. He got suspended and I took him for ice cream. We talked about what happened and he took his punishment like a man. Then the more important part you need to do, go talk to the principle. Tell him he has a problem, tell him there is a zero tolerance for bullying (all schools have this) and you expect them to enforce that. Talk to him with facts, and unemotional. Then, if it is not taken care of, see the district. In no circumstance should you let it go until it is resolved. As a dad of a son that was on the back end of bullying, do not let it go on.

 

@valrxman

I don't have children but was the mom to my sister's for the most part so I feel like i do.

As difficult of a situation it is, violence shouldn't be the answer but I also feel there was no way around this one. I think you should speak to the principal and the board of Ed and implement a stronger bullying policy, this is unacceptable. Regardless of whose kid this is, which may be the case if teachers didn't care, there needs to be a harsher bullying policy
I would explain to your son punching someone is never the answer, using your words, but also emphasize he should be proud of himself for standing up to a bully. It takes a lot of guts to do that at such a young age. Also having a conversation about how to non violently deal with a bully, ignoring him, asking him to stop so it doesn't result in him punching him. Does he have an older brother or is he the oldest? Whenever my younger siblings were bullied I usually went after them and yelled at them. That could help too.

But I think the bigger issue is the school not listening. Maybe have your son petition his teacher to make a no bullying policy so he can turn this negative experience into a positive one

 

Speaking of your trip to Tired Hands yesterday, I've been playing so much catch up I haven't yet had a chance to post this, but this reminded me to take the opportunity to thank you publicly for the incredible #pickitupforme you did. This man delivered unto me a haul from Pizza Boy that was so large it required him to make 3 separate transactions (in fucked up Pennsylvania, if you aren't a 'beer distributor' you can only sell a maximum 192oz per transaction).....

THEN! After hauling all this to me, when we met up for a beer, he and his buddy hook me up with the lion's share of their allotments of the bottle currently for sale at the brewery. Lucky for me, his buddy isn't all that into beer; however he was a hell of a good time to have a beer with.

Thank you again Cody for all the work you did to provide me with all this ammo... errr, beer.... and for giving me a good reason to get out of the house for a few hours.




ps - The above is a content hint for 6 DoT, 12 DoX, Birthday BIF, and probably a couple other upcoming boxes a Locals member will receive.

 

Mine finally went out today! Thank god it did too, because it has to travel all the way to the West Coast. To someone in a very large state. From whom I have received beer before, but to whom I have not ever sent beer. If that, and my previous hints, does not give away my identity to my target, he is not paying attention.

 

My turkey sixer box was shipped today, one last minute substitute bottle and a small item of swag. Six bottles, as they are opened I will explain why I chose these bottles as each of the six bottles played a part in my year. Enjoy buddy!

 

I'm glad you posted this, my first reply on the topic was as a parent, but I also had a similar experience as a kid, I was bullied a fair amount too. For the most part it was verbal abuse and not physical, and while it's a chicken/egg scenario, I've got some pretty thick skin (as you all know) so I usually just sat there and took it. I wish I hadn't. I'm not saying I wish I got into more fights, but I wish I didn't just allow myself to be a punching bag so much of the time.

On the other hand, one of the most satisfying things I've EVER done in life was one time I DID stand up to a bully. He sat next to me on the school bus specifically to torment me the whole ride home, and right in the middle of it I just cold cocked him and gave him a black eye. He was so embarrassed and so desperate to maintain his tough guy image that he lied about it the next day and told everyone it was his father that gave it to him. He never bothered me again a single time after that.