Update: Leaving Feedback When Nothing Has Shipped

I don't think that's the point here. In your situation you would just not open a trade ticket and excuse yourself from the trade if you're getting bad vibes. This would be after both parties agreed to an amicable trade and a ship by date.

For example, sometimes trades are done for a prerelease where a trade is set on Wednesday but the brewery doesn't release until Saturday. A trade ticket is opened to lock it in. Person A goes to the brewery and buys all the beer for the trade but then the other party changes his mind and Person A is left with $ out of pocket on beer he wasn't planning on buying.

 

hopefully but not always. The only regrets I have ever had was when I went through with trades that I was uneasy with and that point didnt always come before the trade was accepted.

 

not arguing that as it wasnt my point, different argument.

 

Were these for trades that people were lining up to make? I guess I'm not sure why you would accept before you are comfortable. I've only had 1 trade completed where there was 2-3 messages exchanged. All the rest must have had at least 10+ before we ever got to the "send a trade request" step, and very little of that is negotiating, mostly it's conversation or sharing lists, etc.

 

years ago now when I started, these days a) I trade with friends I have made and b) I have more experience. one time in talking someone bought a bottle for me prematurely and I wasnt feeling the trade (not here not accepted) so I paypaled them for the bottle and told them to drink it themself, I wouldnt let anyone lose money.

 

Disappointed
When is an agreement not a meaningful agrement. When you trade on BA. Very Sad.

 

This rule change makes the agreement a meaningful agreement. If you agree and the other person backs out you can now leave feedback. Unless I misunderstood your post.

 

What are the appreciate steps when a trader backs out of a deal and then leaves feedback for me that’s not accurate?

 

You should message one of the Moderators and let them know what happened, they will instruct you for any further actions.

 

Was it retaliatory feedback? If so, that is grounds for a banning. Also, can you provide more details on the other traders beef.

 

At the time of the trade, he had 0 completed trades so I asked him to ship first. He agreed and accepted the trade in the system. After accepting, he asked if I’d be willing to split the trade into two smaller shipments where we ship the first one at the same time. I said no because I didn’t want to pay shipping twice and I still wanted him to ship first. A few days later he said he didn’t want to do the trade. He left me neutral feedback and said that I wasn’t willing to work with him on shipping.

 

Maybe a dumb question: how do you leave feedback if the other member agrees in messages, but then never accepts the trade request you sent and ghosts the day of an IP trade?

 

You can't, too late now, but you should have not agreed to meet in person until it was accepted, but I understand why you did. D-bag move if someone intentionally didn't show without good reason. Not sure if calling person out on a thread is cool or not.

 

I think IP is a tough one. Everything has to be coordinated just right - like a message saying "I can meet at this time at this place. If that works for you, go ahead and accept the trade request." Otherwise, you almost HAVE to agree to a time and location before the request because how else do you know you can do an IP trade?

 

A day and place were agreed to. Agreed on a range on time. Texted to confirm a specific time in that range day before. Guy ghosts. Never a response, no 'sorry', nada.